Interesting paper written by Judy Ringer
Judy Ringer is the author of Unlikely Teachers: Finding the Hidden Gifts in Daily Conflict (OnePoint Press, 2006). She provides conflict and communication training internationally with unique workshops based on mind/body principles from the martial art aikido, in which she holds a second-degree black belt. Judy brings to life concepts such as self-management under pressure and appreciation of other viewpoints.
Some teachings Judy is sharing with us:
• Breathe and Center. Often. A conflict can unbalance us with strong emotions and feelings of unworthiness, anger, sadness, and frustration. Don’t avoid your emotions, but treat them as guides
• Take the Long View. It’s so easy to get caught in the turmoil of the conflict that we forget there will be a tomorrow. Take some quiet moments to close your eyes and see yourself in the future with the conflict resolved.
• Reframe. Step outside the conflict momentarily and look at it through a more objective lens. Instead of resisting, ask yourself if there is a gift here
• Experiment. Brainstorm all possible responses to this situation and try them on for size. Have fun exercising unexplored selves.
• Practice. Choose one new behavior that will make a positive difference in your attitude toward life and make a commitment to practice that behavior every day.
• Count Your Blessings. Notice the good things in your life. Cultivate gratitude and wonder.