How can you live in peace while respecting others and also yourself? Many people try to live in keeping with their personal values of peace and harmony, but run up against a harsh world that sometimes sees the expression of kindness as a weakness. But you have to be strong to be kind. That is what In Search of Martial Kindness will show you.
As you read this book, you will discover the fundamentals of AikiCom, an approach that combines the principles and ethics of aikido.
You will learn:
How AikiCom is a blend of physical and verbal approaches
How AikiCom grew from the modeling of Aiki practice in Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP)
How to apply Aiki in daily life and in your communication with others, whether you practice aikido or not
How to apply Eastern thought to move from individualism to an interconnected view of the world
How to become strong through centering and verticality
How to receive the energy of your interactions with others in order to transform conflict into constructive dialogue.
In Search of Martial Kindness will set you on the path of kind and caring warriors who dare to experience the adventure of getting along with oneself and others.
About the author:
Christian Vanhenten is an engineer and NLP Master Practitioner. He has been trained in numerous communication techniques and has been practicing aikido for more than forty years. The author created AikiCom in 2008 while teaching this martial art at his dojo in Namur, Belgium. Since then, he has devoted himself entirely to developing and teaching AikiCom and has been working actively on the spreading of aikido principles in the business world, education, and therapy.
Original book: Ne Cessez pas d’être gentils soyez forts
Translated by Theodore Kendris
Click here to order on Amazon
Book Genre: English
As in all his books, Heckler draws from personal experience: training his horse, cultivating presence in aikido dojos, consulting with business executives, raising children. A masterful and encompassing book, Holding the Center develops from the fulcrum of the self in the natural world. Many of Heckler’s lessons arise from his life as a householder and father. Community is a larger family—we make alliances to “take care of what matters to us.” But, as Heckler teaches, that takes listening to others with an open heart, and learning what the needs of others are.The world can be a sanctuary, if we find a balance between instinct and choice. Richard Strozzi Heckler sounds an important call about the interplay between power and generosity in these subtle and luminous essays.
The rapidly changing nature of today's business world requires that people possess strong leadership skills that can direct current trends in the workplace and handle potential problems with efficiency, intelligence, and diplomacy. Author and management consultant John O'Neil shows us how the concepts of aikido--the martial art tradition that stresses victory without harm--can be used as a lifelong business practice. Illustrating his points with stories and experiences of high achievers in business, politics, and the arts, Leadership Aikido presents innovative skills that answer an urgent need as managers and employers rethink outmoded business paradigms in order to keep offices running smoothly, production levels high, and morale up. Employers and managers at all levels are looking to create programs that incorporate business requirements with their professional and spiritual goals. O'Neil provides a practical way to achieve this by teaching us how to embrace the philosophy of aikido, which can bring beliefs, perceptions, and actions into harmony and lead us down a path of continuous learning, inner personal change, and enlightened leadership.
This book explains how to identify the five inner enemies--failure to grow emotionally; failure to make creative decisions; failure to empathize; failure to manage ego; and failure to overcome alienation and boredom. We are given practical methods for overcoming these hurdles and are shown ways to assess and develop our leadership potential through self-discovery tests and interactive exercises that embrace the six master practices of aikido: cultivating self-knowledge; practicing the paradoxical art of planning; speaking the language of mastery; letting values drive our decisions; turning failure into success; and heeding the law of unintended consequences.
Stressing the need for balance and self-awareness in both business and life, John O'Neil reveals the secrets of this ancient art in an easy to understand and straightforward manner. His thoughtful presence and energetic style, imbued with the win-win ethics of aikido, ensure us that by adopting these practices into our lives, we will benefit both professionally and personally.
Many leadership books present models for thinking and speaking, but very few address the role of the body in leading effectively. Yet, a great deal of the effect we have on others is carried by our physical presence. Our body postures hold the key to lowering emotional reactivity, while increasing our power, resilience and flexibility. Leadership Embodiment delivers a practical “user’s guide” for effective embodied leadership, enabling practitioners to: • Project a powerful, open and expansive leadership presence • Create an inclusive atmosphere for collaboration and team work • Receive feedback and listen from a place of open curiosity, and • Stand their ground and speak the truth in the face of pressure Leadership Embodiment techniques are based on principles from the non-aggressive martial art of Aikido, mindfulness practices, and posture awareness. They are designed to mitigate the impact of the stress and intensity inherent in leadership and daily life—like getting through a traffic jam, a promotion, a wedding, the loss of a job, winning a competition, making a production deadline, rallying a team after a loss, or making a product pitch. All leaders, be they CEOs, line supervisors, parents, consultants, care givers, administrators, teachers, coaches . . . can use these simple practices to learn to act with power, skill, and compassion. In part one of the book, Wendy Palmer offers simple postural practices that broaden our perspective, enhance interconnection and build confidence, accompanied by illustrations by Jen Mahoney. In part two, Janet Crawford pulls from cutting edge research in neuroscience and evolutionary biology to offer a biological explanation for the efficacy of the Leadership Embodiment techniques.
Crum defines his method of conflict management through the lens of an Aikido martial artist which, all things considered, is a very interesting perspective. However, I was not a big fan of the book as it focused too much on expanding and contracting “ki” or “sources of positive and negative energy”.
My takeaway from this book is that I need to be more aware of the reasons behind a conflict. I need to be willing to expend more energy to understand what is driving the conflict rather than jumping into the fray with an unmoveable viewpoint. This willingness to search for understanding will allow me to clearly see all viewpoints in the conflict and work towards a solution acceptable by all sides.